Random Thoughts: Love Yourself Girl or Nobody Will

Love yourself, girl, or nobody will. Oh, you a woman? I don’t know how you deal with all the pressure to look impressive and go out in heels I feel for you. Killing yourself to find a man that’ll kill for you – J. Cole

Ok.. First of all I don’t do “Inspirational” posts at all. I’ll leave that to all of the other blog sites. I just really wanted to post this as a reminder to myself and others.

I am not the ideal body type.

You’ll probably never see me walking down some runway, or in some high fashion magazine and believe me when I say I am more than ok with that. Lol. I was bullied in elementary and middle school for my size and the way I looked. I guess my hair wasn’t long enough, my stomach wasn’t flat enough or my smile wasn’t bright enough. I was also extremely awkward because I didn’t have enough self esteem to exude confidence, no matter how pretty my family told me that I was. I always felt like I needed an outsider’s validation. Why couldn’t a random person on the street come up to me and tell me how pretty I am? Why couldn’t I just feel happy with myself?

Safe to say I carried myself poorly up until my sophomore year of high school, where I made the best friends I have ever had in my life. I started hanging with people that looked like me and we would compliment and uplift each other and just have fun. For the first time in my life I could go to school and not have to worry about what someone would have to say about me. I can barely remember how I got there but I think REAL LIFE started happening. So much chaotic stuff was happening at home that what other people said about me just stopped mattering. I even started responding to comments such as “Fat ass” and “Man you just weird as fuck” with “I know.” it’s kind of funny how when you agree with something someone says the remark doesn’t sting as much.

Love yourself girl or nobody will

I’ve heard

“I only date athletic built women”

“Yea big girls need love too but they gon get that love from someone that’s not me.”

“Why don’t you just lose weight?”

“You’d be so pretty if you were skinnier”

“If you wore make up you’d be cute as hell”

“I actually have a big girl fetish”

Don’t get me started on how I feel about that last quote. lol. But I’ve said all that to say THIS:

In REAL LIFE all that matters is how you feel when you look in the mirror at yourself. Not what some random male or female thinks you look. Body image use to be such a big deal to me but I forced myself to grow up. In life period it’s gonna be some people that find you unattractive. It’s even people in the world that think Beyonce isn’t cute, it’s just that when you’re a little bit darker and a little bit bigger the amount of people that think that about you may be a tad bit bigger but FUCK THEM. (excuse my language) Love yourself first, that’s when people that truly love you are allowed to… LOVE you. Stop giving the wrong crowd your attention.



One thought on “Random Thoughts: Love Yourself Girl or Nobody Will

  1. This post is urrthaang, lol. You have to have self-love, no one likes a Debbie Downer. Lol, always putting themselves down all the time and letting what people say get to them so much that they actually begin to believe it. Society has people’s heads all kinds of messed up with their portrayal of what beauty really is, smh.

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